During this month I will be focusing my intention on developing:
Imagine if everyone on Earth suddenly gained the gift of presence. What if we were able to slow down and step away from hyperactivity and disconnect: listen to what’s going on inside, see the person next to us with empathy, be aware of how our actions impact others and impact the world, and become aware of what is essential for our own wellbeing.
What if we were all able to stop anaesthetising the effects of chaos and overwhelm with more: more busywork, more junk food, more drink, more Netflix binges. To pull our heads out of the sand and see what is happening around us.
We may not be able to snap our fingers and bring presence to the world, but we can choose how to live our own lives.
By choosing to live with presence we say “no!” to zombieing through life on automatic. We say “yes” to connection with ourselves and with the world around us. And maybe, just maybe, living our values in this way can inspire one other person, or even two, or three, to re-examine the choices they are making in their lives and gently improve our little corner of the world.
Like intention, “presence” has a different meaning to each one of us. This month I encourage you to explore what it means to you, where your challenges lie in this area, and where you succeed brilliantly.
presence in my life
In my life presence looks like:
- Feeling grounded, solid, alive inside. Bringing my complete authentic self to everything I do.
- Being able to connect with those I love without my own issues and defences getting in the way.
- Allowing my feelings to be what they are – joy, excitement, fear, sadness. Accepting them without shying away or burying them under busyness.
- All aspects of myself integrated as a whole.
how I’ll practice presence in November
When I start the day well I find I’m more likely to continue well. During November I commit to a morning routine that grounds me and encourages presence.
I intend for it to look something like this:
- Getting up early to have a relaxed breakfast and giant mug of tea with my wife as the sun rises; talking, reading together, enjoying each others’ company before we start our separate days.
- Spending time with my morning pages to clear my head and reinstate my intentions for the day.
- Taking a few minutes to “invoke the muse” (a term I borrowed from The War of Art by Stephen Pressfield), which can mean anything I need it to each day – a few minutes of meditation, some gratitude practice, a small prayer to help me feel connected in my day, a reminder of the feelings and intentions I want to carry into the day with me.
After this I will start my work with focus and intention.
I will focus my full attention on each thing I am doing.
When in someone’s company I’ll endeavour to be present, focusing deeply on their words, actions, feelings and body language. Not listening while waiting for a gap into which I can insert my opinion (which tends to be my standard practice).
This month I am going to try and break my device addiction (it’s bad…), using only one screen/device at a time – this should be easy but is what I’m dreading the most – and will removing all unnecessary notifications that pull my attention away from what I’m doing.
When I find myself distracted I will attempt to bring myself back to centre and remind myself of where I my attention needs to be, “I am working on this right now…”
Throughout the day I will take a break from what what I’m doing, take a few deep breaths and reconnect. Check how I’m doing, what’s working for me, what’s not working so well, what I feel I need to adjust.
feeling my feelings
I will practice becoming aware of my feelings whether positive or negative. When I feel the urge to do something that covers the dive into busywork and not hiding and numbing.
what are your intentions?
How will you add a little presence into your life? Please join me by taking the following steps!
- Post in the comments below to let me know how you would like to focus your intention on developing presence during November.
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